Certified Coordinated Bride Demonica
Journal Entry #2
noun fam·i·ly \ˈfam-lē, ˈfa-mə-\
: a group of people who are related to each other; all descendants of a common ancestor
: a person who you like and enjoy being with; a person who helps or supports someone or something
: good friends are the family that we can choose for ourselves; when friends become like family; closer than close, they may know you better than your own family
You always hear the “Be careful who you ask to be in your wedding” advice. You hear the horror stories of terrible bridesmaids and groomsmen. Some people would rather stand alone than choose people to stand with them. Well, that wasn’t and isn’t the case for me. There was no question who I’d have stand with me as I married the man God sent just for me. These are people who have been in my corner from day one and have supported Jared and I for the past 7 years. Each of them come from different walks of [my] life. From childhood choir days to high school, college and beyond. I often say I don’t have many friends. It’s true. I have framily. They have stuck closer than any brother and the bond we share doesn’t need biological ties. I am truly blessed to have these amazing women that challenge me, encourage me, laugh with me, uplift me, and have accepted to stand with me.
Now, I am the exact opposite of a DIY bride, but I put my blood sweat, and paper cuts into asking these ladies to stand with me. I made each of my bridesmaids a box and placed a ring pop in them. With it was a card asking if they would do me the honor of being my bridesmaid/maid of honor/matron of honor.
My glitter girls will be the gems of the night. Each of them received a necklace with their initial and a card asking if they’d be our glitter girls. They each responded thank you for my necklace so I took that as a yes. My hostesses are a part of our dream team and they were formally asked as well. We couldn’t leave out the rest of the wedding party. In addition to the girls, the groomsmen, assistant best man, and ring security were asked as well.
Lastly I asked my dear sisters to walk me to my forever man. My dad passed away 8 years ago on Father’s Day. My mom passed on Christmas Day almost 3 years ago. Holidays aren’t my favorite and not having my parents here has been and is hard. However, I am extremely blessed to still have the family I have here and I cherish that. It was without a doubt I would include my sisters who have become Jared’s sisters as well. It’s a bit symbolic. If he gets me, he gets us three and that’s who he’ll see walking me down the aisle.
To add to the wedding festivities, I hosted a bridesmaid meet and greet weekend. All of my girls knew of each other but didn’t know each other. So we had a weekend full of fun activities to get everyone acquainted. Friday night was the slumber party where we ate pizza, played games, and had a battle of the bridesmaids (you had to be there to see TLC vs. Destiny’s Child). Saturday morning we went bridesmaid dress shopping and later had dinner with a little night out on the town. Sunday we concluded with brunch and a sailing boat trip out on Lake Michigan. This trip reaffirmed (not that I needed it) why I chose these ladies to stand with me. Each of them have a piece of my heart and I can’t say enough how blessed I am to know each and every one of them.
Now I would go into depth about each person in our wedding party but we’d be here all day. Instead I’ll just say we are immensely blessed to have so many wonderful, supportive people in our lives. And yes, we have A Tribe Called Quest DJ’s I Do Crew comprising of 32 people. Please visit our wedding website to learn more about our I Do Crew at www.CountryBoyMeetsCityGirl.com
Until next time…